Very good point kausam salam — what I mean is that there are more who will support us than not, but we are worried what a handful of people think about us and let their opinions dictate our lives. Pretty rediculous if you think about it. They are scared to do what they want and react by dragging other people down. Quick side -when I stopped drinking a few people were very persistent that I should drink with them. It had nothing to do with wanting to have fun with me but then not wanting to be miserable alone.