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Love is water

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It was the fourth week of quarantine when my wife began to cry.

One of her dad’s favorite things to do is to go hiking every Tuesday with his buddies. For the ten years I’ve known him, the only thing that has ever stopped him from going is either being hospitalized or lockdown. Bad weather doesn’t stop Lluis. He loves the mountains. It’s his place. The moment he steps onto a trail he blends into it. But even more than the mountains, he loves getting a day out with his friends. They’ve had this weekly tradition for over a decade.

It broke my wife’s heart when he told her his closest friend in the group had just passed away. …


It took hitting rock bottom for me to learn the real meaning of success

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The phone rang. This was it, I thought. At last, all the years of struggle I’d endured were about to be worth it.

Growing up with a severe speech impediment and social anxiety, I had a very limited view of what I was capable of accomplishing. …


Build your confidence by collecting easy wins

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One day, four years ago, I met a man who kickstarted my writing career and changed the direction of my life forever.

My family and I were walking to a beach in Menorca, Spain, when I saw an American couple struggling to carry their things with their two young kids in their arms. After offering to take one of their bags, our families spent the afternoon together. Since I’d been to the island a few times before to visit my wife’s sister, later that night I sent the man the ultimate guide for how to maximize their week.

“This is amazing,” he replied. “If you don’t write, you should think about it.” …


Ask yourself: What’s the next right thing I can do?

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When I turned 39 years old, a friend of mine asked me an interesting question: “Most people spend the first half of their lives collecting, and the second half determining what to keep. Now that you’re getting close to the top of the hill, what lessons do you plan to hold on to?”

At the time I didn’t have a clear answer, hence why I write, I get time to think. Since being asked this question, however, not a day has passed when I haven’t thought about it.

What lessons do you plan to hold on to?

It’s a good question.
Perhaps the best. …


Networking from home just became a seriously valuable skill

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During the fourth week of quarantine, I received a flurry of emails that sent my already anxious mind into overdrive. In the span of five minutes, I lost half my work contracts.

Fortunately, I was able to quickly replace them. The reason for this is simple: for the last three years, no matter what I have going on, I reach out to just one new person a week who is doing something I think is cool requesting a chance to get to know them.

This past month alone I’ve spoken with quite possibly the most inspiring person I’ve ever met who writes uplifting articles with his eyes due to being completely paralyzed from ALS; the former Chief of HR at Apple; a professor of entrepreneurship at Duke; and a 17-year-old designer who is offering his marketing services for free to help mom-and-pop shops in the UK better navigate COVID. …


#1 — Use email the right way

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A lot of people predicted the pandemic would either result in a spike in divorces or an uptick in 2021 babies.

After spending every waking and sleeping hour with my wife over the last 8 months, below are 7 ideas that can help you to maybe accomplish the latter. Worst case, they’ll at least make your partner smile or possibly laugh a little.

1. Use email the right way.

My wife was working in the family room. I was working on our bed. …


What’s the next right thing I can do?

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“If you ever came home complaining about something, our mother would look at you with a straight face, one hand probably on a hip, and she’d say, “Well, what are you gonna do about it?”

My friend Michelle Woo recently took a dive into the life of Kamala Harris. I loved that she pulled out the quote above from a talk Kamala gave where she shared a lesson from her late mother, Shyamala Gopalan.

“Well, what are you gonna do about it?”

The simple question contains just seven words. But it tells us a lot about how Kamala gained the fighting spirit that allowed her to become “A first and an only.” …


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“This is gonna hurt!”

I stared at the man, rested my sweaty palms on my knees, and nodded my head to let him know I was ready to begin.

“Good. Now, I want you to close your eyes, take a deep breath, and think back to the first time you ever felt embarrassed because of your stutter. Don’t overthink it. Just find the moment. Once you’re there, let me know.”

Presentations…
Getting made fun of…
Presentations…
Getting made fun of…

My mind finally settled as I found 6-year-old me standing in front of my class at a new school struggling to get my name out. …


No matter your job title, we’re all in sales

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Recently I came across a statistic that caught me off gaurd. According to research performed by persuasion expert Daniel Pink in his book “To Sell Is Human,” 41 percent of the average person’s workday consists of influencing, persuading, and convincing the people around us.

This statistic may seem high, but it makes perfect sense. From being offered opportunities and getting your ideas to fly, to convincing your kids in an effective manner to pick up after themselves, persuasion is all around us and it plays a key role in both our personal and professional lives.

As an introvert with a stutter who has spent the last two decades as either an entrepreneur or in sales-based roles, I’ve studied the topic of influence and persuasion a great deal. I love the work Daniel Pink puts out. The same goes for the author of “Influence” and “Pre-suasion,” Robert Cialdini. …


Faster doesn’t always mean better

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“That dude from The Shining lost his mind when he was stuck in a freaking mansion and he only had one kid. We don’t even have a yard. If you catch me saying the words ‘Red Rum’ even once, there’s a note in the top drawer of my desk with instructions of what you should do.”

7 months have passed since I half-jokingly said the words above to my wife. Despite being crushed by COVID here in Spain the first time around, and being sent into quarantine this past week again, my family and I are thankfully doing alright.

A major reason for this is because we try each day to trade in our modern ways for old-school hobbies. …

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